How to Stop the Self Sabotage (and Master Your Mindset)

Set You Free - Stop the Saboteur

Why Do We Keep Doing This To Ourselves?

I’ve been teaching fitness for over 27 years, and running online holistic health programs for 8 years.

Here’s the pattern I see so often (you may recognise it yourself), and this applies to all new courses and programs.

  1. I’m so motivated – got all my goals written down, this time I’m going to smash them.
  2. Hmmm – this might require some work…
  3. This isn’t working for me, I can’t do it, theres’ too much to do, it’s too hard
  4. Give up – this isn’t the program for me….

Repeat, for each program.

The number 1 thing I see, is the self saboteur kicking in. The inner critic that says you’re not good enough, who are you to do this, there’s too much to do.

Let’s Get That Self-Saboteur Outed

Here’s my steps to outing yourself, and shining full light on your saboteur (we all have one);

  1. Identify the behaviour – The first step is to identify the self-sabotaging behaviour. This could be procrastination, self-doubt, negative self-talk, or any other behaviour that is holding you back.
  2. Explore the root cause – Once you’ve identified the behaviour, try to understand the root cause of it. Are you afraid of failure or success? Are you dealing with unresolved emotional issues? Understanding the underlying cause can help you find ways to address it.
  3. Challenge negative self-talk – Negative self-talk can be a major source of self-sabotage. When you notice negative thoughts, challenge them with positive affirmations or rational thinking. This is where Mantra’s really come into their own.
  4. Set realistic goals – Setting unrealistic goals can lead to frustration and self-sabotage. Instead, set realistic and achievable goals that are challenging but not overwhelming.
  5. Create a supportive environment – Surround yourself with people who support and encourage you. Avoid people who bring you down or encourage your self-sabotaging behaviour, or consistently pull you off track.
  6. Practice self-care – Taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally can help you stay grounded and focused. This could include exercise, breathwork, or engaging in activities that bring you joy.

My regular practice of Breathwork has transformed my negative self-speak, it’s like a weed – once you let it get rooted it grows, so I use Breathwork to remove it quickly. Breathwork and Mantra’s have also helped me to ground, become more centred and more connected to myself.

Nobody is coming to save you, there is no magic pill to a healthy mindset – you’ve got to do the work yourself, and once you transform your mind that’s the gateway to transforming your body too.

I heard this quote this week and I loved it;

“The mind is like the wind,

And the body is like the sand.

If you want to know how the wind is blowing,

You can look at the sand”

Bonnie Bainbridge Cohen

As someone who works with bodies everyday, I cannot tell you how true that statement is.

My next Breathwork Session is all about ‘Connectedness’, to your self, to those around you and to the universe. I’ll be showing you how to write a mantra, and how simple breathing techniques when practiced everyday can raise your energy levels. This is full mindset training.

“If you make sure you’re connected
The writing’s on the wall
But if your mind’s neglected
Stumble you might fall”

The Stereo MC’s…just putting that music worm in your ear 😀

Click the Below Button to find out more and to book – there’s only 2 spaces remaining! And, it’s going to be a good one.

Jill x


I’m on holiday next week from Sunday 2nd April, back on Tuesday 11th April – if any of you want a class recording to do over the week just drop me a line and I’ll send you one for the regular price of a class.


I’ve written a guide to stop the snacking – if you’d like a copy you can request a download here.


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